当全世界的人都在歌颂喂母乳有许多许多的好处时,却忘了提醒新手妈妈在这某些方面可能会遇到一些难题。姑且不讨论这个问题，我对于杂志上，报纸上或书籍上，列出喂母乳一系列的好处当中，对于“喂母乳有助于促进亲子关系”这个说法，一直心存许多的问号：为什么当新手妈妈正在挣扎着如何喂宝宝喝母乳；同一个时间，初生宝宝也一样挣扎着如何从妈妈那儿吸母乳时，又饿又喝不到时，呱呱啼哭，新手妈妈听了，心急又不知所错时，亲子关系就是从这儿建立起的吗？又或者，当妈妈享有喂宝宝喝母乳的特权时，宝宝是否知道是妈妈亲自喂他喝母乳吗？这些一直让我觉得很好奇又很疑惑的事情。虽然我已为人母，却搞不懂，亲子关系究竟为何物？
When the whole world is widely promoting the benefits of breastfeeding, they may forget to remind the mother-to-be that they might face some problem when they want to breastfeed their newborn baby. Let’s don’t discuss about this topic. Through the magazines, newspaper and books, I get to know that breastfeeding will beneficial both the mother and baby a lot. However, I always feel strange on one of the benefits they listed down: Breastfeeding will create a bond between the mother and baby. I have a lot of question marks regarding this remark. How breastfeeding will create the bond between the mother and baby when the newly mother is struggling to breastfeed her baby; at the same time, the newborn baby is also struggling to get the milk from the mother? Or does the baby know that the woman who is breastfeeding him now is his mother? Although I was officially a mother already, I still cannot fully understand what is the bond mean to?
一直到有一天，当我打算不再喂母乳时，我看到小祥安因为妈妈不再喂他喝母乳而落寞的样子时，我觉得心很疼。我想，他大概是认为，被妈妈抱着喂奶，就等于被妈妈抱着疼爱，从妈妈的怀里，他找到温暖和安全感的。现在妈妈不再喂他喝母乳，他以为妈妈不要他了。那一刻，我终于深深地体会到何谓亲子关系，以及为何喂母乳会被视为促进亲子关系的其中一项。虽然平时我也有注意到，当我喂小祥安喝母乳时，他总是给我一个很纯洁快乐的眼神，却没预料到要断奶时，对于这个小婴孩是一项打击。
Till one day, I planned to stop breastfeed my Little Ethan, Little Ethan looked very sad. I felt my heart was so pain that my Little Ethan couldn’t understand why his Mommy stop breastfeed him. I think, for him, breastfeed is one kind of a love from his Mommy. He may felt a sense of security and warm feeling when he was cuddled by his Mommy. So, when I stop breastfeed him, Little Ethan though I don’t want him already. At that moment, I truly deeply understand what the bond means to is, and why the whole world is encouraging breastfeed. When I breastfeed Little Ethan, I always can see the pure joy from Little Ethan’s eyes. From here, I get a lot of courage from Little Ethan to be a stronger person and also enjoying being a mother. Nevertheless, I never estimated that my decision to abruptly stop breastfeed Little Ethan will give him so strong of psychology impacts.
最严重的莫过于有个晚上我和致求去参加阿月的结婚前夕聚会，而迟至晚上9点30分还未回家接管小祥安时，小祥安的公公打来了一个电话，气急败坏地告诉我小祥安从晚上8点30分开时哭哭啼啼要找妈妈时，我们立刻结束我们的聚会，飞车回家，想搞清楚到底小祥安怎么了。回到家时，看到的是一个卷缩在摇篮里的小祥安，含着眼泪，哽咽着入睡，看了真的好心疼。原来小祥安是知道妈妈今晚不在他身边哄他入睡，所以他伤心的哭了。那一瞬间，我才发现到原来我们的亲子关系已经随着时间慢慢的建立起来了，也越来越深厚了。我赫然发现，我被我的孩子深深的爱着，这是何等幸福的一件事啊。
The most serious case happened when Chee Chew and I went to attend Moon’s Bachelor’s night. That night, we stay so late till 9.30pm. Little Ethan’s Grandpa suddenly gave me a call, told me that Little Ethan started cried from 8.30pm till now, he guessed the little fellow was looking for his mother. We ended our gathering immediately and rushing back to home to figure out what happen to our little sweetie. When we got home, I saw my Little Ethan huddled in the cradle, kept choking back his tears to sleep. I really distressed to see it. Little Ethan was so sad that I am not around to coax him to sleep. He must wonder where I am since 8.30pm. At the moment, I found that our parent-child relationship was already built up slowly, more and more profound over the time. I realized that I was deeply being loved by my baby; this is what a happy thing.
每个夜晚，只要有妈妈陪伴着小祥安，小祥安才会安心地入睡。每个深夜，小祥安从睡梦中惊醒，一定要确认妈妈的存在，才又继续沉睡去。我的小祥安，妈妈永远，永远都会记得，妈妈是如此被需要，被依赖，被你深深爱着的每一刻。
Every night, with the Mommy’s accompany, Little Ethan will sleep very well. Every midnight, whenever Little Ethan wake up, he must make sure my existence then only fell to sleep soundly. My Little Ethan, Mommy will always remember in my heart that Mommy is being so needed; being so dependent and being deeply love by you every moment forever.
