北格：
当你还在妈妈子宫里面时，爸爸妈妈希望你会平平安安地出世。因此，在斟酌了所有的单字后，并且依据海南人的家谱，我们决定在你的“祥”字辈后，取了一个“安”字。
我们除了希望你平安，安稳，快乐地成长，更要确定让你在一个安全健康的环境下成长。虽然你还是个小孩，不过我们依然像对待一个大人般的态度和你交代我们每天的动向和去向，好让你安心和拥有绝对的安全感，让你知道爸爸妈妈出去上班后，还是会回家的。
相信不久以后，你长大成人后，未来你的生活节奏或脚步有紧奏时，我们希望你能极力维护生活里的安静。在紧奏的生活并不特别感到窘迫或埋怨，在时间中不自由自在但也不会感到受限制。
你要记住，安静的生活是一种节约的生活方式。安静使你能认真思考能缩短工作所需要的时间，能转化所面临的各种问题。安静也使你开心的是，说话时能诚恳表达自己。最重要的是，安静使你拥有一种做任何事都专心的力量。
但是，在未来，无论你在哪个生活阶段，你都不苟求，而是清清楚楚地画出完全属于自己的安静时刻。即使当你处在一个喧嚣的环境时，有时侯也会感觉到一种异常的安静，就像在看一场消音的电影。
打个比喻，妈妈就是利用操作家务，全心陪伴你，也利用热情进入工作来感受那些安静给我的种种享受，再从这种感受中汲取快乐来面对天天循环的生活。所以，别把安静的定义狭窄化了。
爸爸妈妈希望你铭记住着这个关于“安”的故事。未来也希望你也会创作一个属于自己“安”的故事，那时侯就请你讲这个故事给我们听了。
妈妈
2013年6月13日笔
后记：这封信，在北格出世半年后，就用手打好稿了，今天才用电脑记录下来。
Peke,
When you were inside Mommy’s womb, Daddy and Mommy prayed that you will be born safely. So after considered all the Mandarin single words, we decided to take the word “Aun” as your last name after your surname and Hainanese’s genealogy middle name “Xiang”. “Aun” in Mandarin means safe, peace and stable.
We want to ensure you will be growing up in a safe, healthy and happy environment. Though you are still a small kid, we always treat you like an adult, whenever we plan for any daily activities or any outing, we will inform you and give a picture, just to make sure you will have an absolute sense of security that we will be back home after work.
Your future life pace will play tight soon after you had grown up. However, we hope you will strongly defend your life in the quiet, so that you will not feel miserable or complain even the rhythm of life is tight; you will not feel you are restricted or difficult to breathe even you are in a tight schedule.
Please always remember that quiet life style is a kind of frugality of life. It will enable you to reflect and think first before an action is taken whenever you face any problems; consequently you can shorten the time needed to complete the work. It will make your happier because you will speak and express yourself sincerely. The most important part is it will help you to possess the power of concentration in doing anything.
We hope you will not be so demanding no matter what stage of life you are in, but you need to clearly draw out your own quiet moments. Even when you are in a noisy environment, you will still feel an unusual quiet, just like watching a silencer movie.
For example, when I was doing my house works, accompanying you with heart fully, I will use the enthusiasm from works to enjoy my quiet moments. From here, I gain my happiness and it gives me the power to face every day routine and life cycle. So, please do not narrow the definition of Quiet.
We hope you will always remember the story about “Aun”. We hope you will create your own story of “Aun” in future. Then, please tell us your own “Aun” story to us.
Mommy
13 June 2013
P/S: This letter had been draft just after 6 months Peke was born. Today, finally I am free to record it down with my personal computer.
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